Relationships of Success

The people you have around you are a major factor in the level of success you will achieve. Jim Rohn coined the phrase that you are the average of the people you spend the most time with. In this video we’ll discuss the 4 most important types of people you have in your life and the questions you need to ask yourself to find out if they are propelling or hindering your success. Your relationships are the pillars for which your foundation of success is built upon.

The first and most important relationship you have is with yourself. Through thick and thin, break ups and fights, at the end of the day you’ll always have to live with yourself. Make sure you like the person staring back at you in the mirror. Are you doing the things that make you happy? Do you feel fulfilled in your career? Do you feel confident you’ll achieve your goals? How do you talk about yourself?

The next type of relationship is that of a significant other. Obviously being with someone is not required to obtain success. However, most of us choose to have a significant other at some point or another so it’s important to address it. Does the person you’re with truly support what you do? Do they make you want to be a better person? Do they believe in you, do they believe in your dreams? If you answer no to any of these questions, you need to evaluate your relationship. This is the person you’ll probably spend the most time with, and they can drag you down in a hurry if they’re not on board.

The third type of relationship is that of a teammate. This can be your family, your friends, a co-worker. It’s imperative that you have at least one person in your life that pushes you to be better, and cheers for you when you win. Similar to having a spotter when you’re working out, you’ll never truly max out your potential without someone by your side. Do they laugh when you tell them your goals? Do they enable you when you fail? Do they advise you to take the easy or safe route? Have they ever given you a hard time for being different? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you need to consider disassociating yourself with that person. If you put a pile of crabs in a bucket, every time a crab almost climbs it’s way out of the bucket, another crab reaches up and pulls it back down. Our family and friends can hold us back without you even knowing it.

The last type of relationship is that of a mentor. A mentor could be anyone from whom you derive wisdom or advice. A parent, a leader, or a coach could all be examples of a mentor. A mentor is like a gps, they can’t drive the route for you but they know the path you need to take in order to reach your destination. A mentor is a key person to have in your life because they help you see past your current circumstance. We all have another level that we can strive for, but it can be extremely difficult to achieve without a mentor or a coach. Some questions to ask yourself in regards to your mentors are; why is this persons advice valuable to me? What information do they possess that could be useful to me? Do they have my best interests at heart?

These four relationships combine as the pillars for which your success is built upon. We can’t go through this life on our own, so make sure the people you do surround yourself with are making you better. Think about the people in your life right now, ask yourself which of these categories they fit into and if they are helping or hurting your cause. Life’s too short to spend it with the wrong kind of people, surround yourself with those who love you, care about you, and make you a better you.